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Getting into a positive mindset and how I plan to do that.

Right now most of us are feeling pretty shit because of the current situation and I am no exception. My mental health has compleltey deteriorated over the last couple of months and while I know a positive minset isn’t going to act as a magical cure all, it is a step in the right direction.

Now different people will get themselves into positive mindsets in different ways and it will never be the same way for eveybody. We are all different people and so it is only natural that the same things will not work for eveybody; that is why this post is not me giving you guys advice on how to get into a positive mindset, but sharing how intend to.

I would also like to point out that if you don’t feel ready to try and attempt a positive minset … that’s okay too. This isn’t something that you can just decided to do. Your brain has to be in a place where it feels it is ready for it and that isn’t something that we have any control over.

It has taken me years to get to the point where I feel ready, but now that I am … I want to share my plan with you.

Sorting out a sleeping schedule :- I guarentee that you have probably heard this thousands of times, but sleep is imporant; it not only allows you to phsycially heal but mentally too. I am often in bed really late and then up incredibly early which is not going to do me any favours. I am determined from now on to be in bed by 11pm and then up at 8; this will ensure I am getting an adequate amount of rest but still awake early enough to enjoy the mornings that I love.

Read more – Reading is something that I have always loved and will always love. It allows to get out of my brain for an hour or so and it also does a great job of encoouraging me to sleep. However, recently I have been totally negelecting my books and it’s about time I picked them up again. I have set myself the goal of reading atleast 30 pages a day; I know that isn’t a lot … but it is a start and will give my brain a little daily break.

Going on walks – Now I know we are on lockdown right now and we are all stuck in … but I was keeping myself locked away before all of this started. We are still allowed to go on a daily walk which is something I think I am going to start taking advantage of; it will slowly get me used to going back outside again and I can get some excercise in.

Affirmations – This is a compleltey new idea to me and I have no idea if it will make any difference … but I want to try. I just love the idea of waking up in the morning and reading something postive; I think it will set a good tone for the entire day which is so imporant. Starting the day as I mean to go on.

Interact more with my blogging community – Everytime I interact with one of you guys or talk with a fellow blogger on twitter … it instantly lifts my mood. Everybody is incredibly supportive and it makes a massive difference knowing that I have people to talk to but I need to do it more. I have started posting more on twitter and on my instagram in an effort to gain more communication with you guys; please never hesistate to chuck a message or respond to something I post. It makes my day.

I know there is a lot more that I need to do to acheive the minset I want, but for now … I am starting small and working my way up.

I know I will get there eventually.

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Beauty · Lifestyle

Are there really any benefits to make-up?

Hey M’lovelies,

Today I wanted to discuss wether or not make-up truly has any benefits for us.

Anybody who knows me knows that I love my make-up and if you know me really well … Then you know why. I do wear a full face almost everyday but I always keep it quite simple and don’t go very dramatic.

I personally wear make-up because it helps me to feel more confident about what I see in the mirror. I love that it can help me feel more like myself and ready to face the day.

However, for the longest of time I noticed my self confidence drop to an all time low because I wished I could look like do with it, without it. My make up kept getting heavier and heavier until I no longer recognised myself when it was on. I decided it was time to cut down on what I was wearing bit by bit and my confidence slowly grew back.

“Less is more” is something that I do truly believe and think wearing make-up that enhances your natural beauty can actually improve your confidence without it. You’ll eventually see that you don’t look as drastically different without it and you will learn to appreciate your natural self.

I do however think that it can almost become an addiction if you are not careful. It is very very easy to become dependent on it because we all love to feel like we look amazing. Just remember that make-up is hella expensive these days.

I asked my friend Sarah what she thought of make-up and she said ‘make up is a way of expressing yourself. In my opinion, I enjoy applying makeup whether it’s minimal or a full coverage. It allows me to be who I am. If you were to ask me that question two years ago, I would’ve completely disagreed with that statement mainly due to the fact that I wasn’t sure what make up was applied where or the fact that it was covering the natural beauty. However, I’ve learnt now that it’s a way to express yourself and adds on to the beauty that someone already has.’

To conclude, I think there are many benefits to make-up including the fact it can help bring your confidence. Your wallet won’t thank you for it and your skin may get the odd spot because of it but if you feel it works for you then rock the confidence it brings you.

I hope you guys have enjoy this post. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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Lets Talk About Mental Health.

Hey M’lovelies,

Today I am going to be talking to you about the subject of mental health and this may be triggering for some people so I do recommend not reading this post if you feel it could potentially cause you any upset.

I have decided to talk about this topic because I have seen nothing but people getting attacked for their mental health in the news and on my facebook which I think is just disgusting. You never know what could tip a person over the edge and so to attack them while you know they are low is despicable and I personally couldn’t think of anything crueller.

Mental health is not something that should be taken lightly as 1 in 4 people will statistically suffer from some form of mental illness or mental health issue each year. People need to be made more aware of how they could help those who may need it because I know I’d feel awful if I couldn’t help a loved one who needed me.

In the Uk and Ireland, more than 6,000 people will take their own life each which just goes to show that it can happen to anybody. If more people were made aware of mental illness and there was more access to support then I’m sure that number would decline drastically.

If your friend is struggling and they come to you then the first thing you need to do is let them know that it is going to be okay and that you are proud of them, because it would have taken a world of strength for them to pluck up the courage to talk to you about it. They’ve done the hard part and just need a hand getting through the rest.

Naturally, you are going to ask them why they’re feeling the way they do but if they respond with ‘I don’t know’ then they’re not doing it to be awkward or because they don’t want to tell you … sometimes they really don’t know. Not knowing what is wrong often causes things like depression to get worse because they don’t want to feel the way that they do, but they can’t figure out what is causing it to begin with to help fix it.

Don’t get annoyed at them for not wanting to go out all the time because they are not always going to feel up to it. Sometimes they are going to want to shut themselves away from everyone because they may feel like a burden and like they’ll bring everybody down, but they’re going to need you there when they do feel up to going out.

Encourage them to seek medical help if things don’t improve but don’t push it upon them because that will just make them not want to get help at all. They will get to the point where they are ready to seek the help themselves but they are going to need you to be patient and they’re going to need you to be there for them when do.

You may find out that they are self-harming and if you are both teenagers then the best thing you can do is inform a school or parent before they become a potential danger to themselves. If you are both adults then the only thing you can do is try your best to get them to stop but if it becomes serious then you may need to seek medical intervention for them.

Finally, there are hundreds of diffrent mental illness’ such as Bipolar, OCD etc and it would be a very good idea to research whatever one your friend has because that way you’ll know what expected and will have a better idea on how to support them through it.

To everyone out there suffering, what you are going through is not your fault and you’re going to come out on top even if you don’t feel like it now. You are brave and you should be so proud of yourself for being so strong.

If you are feeling suicidal then please contact The Samaritans on 116 123. It is completely free, open 24hrs and they are there to help.